Raising the Next Generation of Resilient Girls

We don’t go in much for parenting advice here at One Thing New, probably because we've heard too much of it (often unsolicited!) ourselves.
 
But last week I went to a lecture by Simone Marean, co-founder and executive director of the Girls Leadership Institute, who gave a talk on raising resilient girls to an audience of about 100 Marin County parents (mostly mothers). Marean has been teaching girls across the country how to be themselves and have messy relationships for 15 years. Along with day camps, weekend sessions and summer camps for girls, Marean also holds parent-daughter workshops.
 
Her advice struck me as not only unconventional but downright reasonable—a combination I wish I didn't see quite so often! In the spirit of this upcoming Mothers' Day, I thought I'd share what I learned from Marean about raising strong, resilient girls – and how I'm putting her advice into action.
 
When it comes to success, happiness, and the resilience of girls, Marean urges us not to believe everything we hear. While study after study shows girls get better grades and attend college in greater numbers than boys every year, they're also twice as likely to suffer anxiety and depression than boys. In 2015, despite access to expanding opportunities, increasing pressure to be everything from beautiful to brilliant to happy all the time (i.e., Amal Clooney) make it harder than ever to be a girl. When asked to describe the perfect girl, across the country girls create some version of the following list: she’s pretty, organized and busy, she get’s perfect grades and she is an athlete.
 
So what’s wrong with aspiring to that list? Well, it's impossible. And striving for that level of perfection is crippling. This Super Girl may look good on the outside, but Marean says that on the inside she is risk-averse, afraid to say what she thinks, shies away from conflict and is disconnected from her feelings.

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